Here's how to get your partner soaking wet... Lay the groundwork before you lay the pipe…ahem

Hey. Sorry about the wacky title, but I wanted to get your attention to tell you about this concept that can allow you to extend how long you can have sex for by 100% if you do it right. That means that if you can currently last 9 minutes in the sack, this technique could allow you to last almost 20! Here’s how it goes.

The reason you come too quickly when you suffer from premature ejaculation is because there’s too much friction on your penis. The stimulation gets too intense and your climax is triggered.

So, what can you do to stop this from happening? You can increase the lubrication.

One common way to do this is to use shop-bought lube, like KY jelly or something. This is okay, but it’s not great. You have to keep applying it, which is annoying for you and your partner.

A much better way is to pleasure your partner so much before and during sex that she becomes and stays soaking wet herself, without the aid of artificial lube. This is a good idea for two reasons. First, it keeps things slick, so the friction is lessened and your sexual performance is extended and second, you break up sexual intercourse with other pleasurable activities which not only keep your partner wet, but also keep her turned on and enjoying the sex like crazy.

Here are a few ways to do this. Remember: make foreplay last at least 10 minutes and make sure your partner is very, very wet before you start penetrative sex and also, remember to use non-penetrative techniques between sex positions to give your penis the break from stimulation it needs.

Let me break it down step by step:

Even before starting foreplay, you need to turn your partner on. You do this by getting her in the mood. You should know how to do this already, because you know your partner better than anybody, but you can try: talking slowly and descriptively about how horny and turned on you feel and how sexy and tempting she looks.

Don’t randomly start doing this in the middle of the street. Wait until the scene and mood is right. Build it slowly and make it genuine. Begin slowly touching her, but NOT on her most sexual areas, like her breasts and between her legs. Softly touch her neck and slide your fingertips up and down her bare arms. You get the idea.

Be smooth and sensual. Dedicate lots of time to teasing your partner before making oral or manual contact with her vagina. You want her to be gagging for your mouth and fingers before she gets them. Start foreplay using your mouth and fingers. If you know you aren’t very good with oral, get practising! Read up on good techniques and use them on your girl.

During oral or other foreplay, check how wet she is getting by inserting your fingers into her vagina. Keep pleasing her until she’s really wet and, well, almost sticky down there. When you start penetration, she will be really wet, so don’t dry her up by pumping her hard and fast straight away. Start really slow and steady. This will get her even wetter and will also allow you to keep your stimulation levels under control.

For more ways to last longer in bed, check out Prejaculation.com, it has some great techniques in it and it’s the best book I’ve read on the subject of premature ejaculation and lasting longer. It really works.

When you are Older than 60 and Sex is no Longer an Interest to you

Don't assume that just because you will one day be 60 years of age that sex won't interest you. There isn't going to be a day when you wake up and say that is the last time you will be engaging in such events. There is plenty of talk about those over 60 that pursue an active and healthy sex life. Yet not everyone falls into that category. There are some that are just no longer interested in it.

You do owe it to yourself though to find out why you aren't interested in having sex. For many it has to do with the loss of a partner due to death. They may have been with that individual for a very long time. They simply can't imagine themselves becoming intimate with anyone else. This is understandable and not something that should be viewed as out of the ordinary.

There is no set time frame for a person to recover from such events. Eventually you may feel like you are ready to see someone new. It may be within the year or several years down the road. Listen to your own feelings and follow your heart. If you are struggling to let go of the past, professional counseling may be something you can benefit from.

There are those who never really enjoyed sex in the first place. They continued to do it because they felt it was expected from them. They may have wanted to have children or just to keep the peace with their spouse. They may be at a point in their life where they just don't feel that sex is that important anymore. They also aren't going to compromise their stand on it for anyone else any longer.

Some individuals are very concerned about their physical appearance. They go to great lengths as they get older to look their very best. They chose their clothing very carefully so they can accent their good qualities and hide their flaws. So they aren't about to show someone what they look like naked.

Medical issues are one of the main reasons why some people over the age of 60 just don't find sex to be of interest. They may be very ill and it is a fight daily to go about their normal activities. Others find they have a very low libido due to their medical problems or even as a side effect of their medications. Therefore the issue of sex just isn't one that matters a great deal to them.

Likewise, if they have a partner who is suffering from various medical problems they may find that sex doesn't matter. They are more concerned with helping their partner to remain as comfortable as they possibly can. It takes tremendous strength to help someone with daily medical problems. It can be physically and mentally draining as well. Yet at the end of the day they are just thankful to continue having more time to share with that person.

When you are older than 60 and sex is no longer an interest to you, that is your own concern.  You need to make sure you are truly happy with that decision though. If you find you are depressed about it or long for some type of sexual activity you need to see a doctor. There can be many reasons why a person isn't able to enjoy sex as they get older. There are numerous solutions that can be offered as well. If you aren't interested in them though you can still have wonderful and meaningful relationships.

You will just have to find a partner who isn't interested in sex either. Otherwise that different between the two of you is going to end up creating a great gap.

4 Sex Positions Every Man Should Try

Give her an O every time.

As the classic comedy Clerks famously quipped, it’s simple for men to reach orgasm. (“Insert somewhere close and preferably moist; thrust; repeat.”)
But for her to reach the big O? Count the ways. According to the latest research published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, vaginal and clitoral orgasms are, in fact, separate sensations.
Don’t obsess over the source of her pleasure, though—just try something new. Interest in testing out new positions actually makes a big difference in her pleasure and her arousal, explains Jen Landa, M.D., Chief Medical Officer of BodyLogicMD and author of The Sex Drive Solution for Women.
Whether your goal is to give her a blended orgasm or target her G-spot, focus on vaginal pleasure or hone in on her clitoris, we’ve rounded up four positions that will help you perform like a pro in between the sheets.
For ultimate access to her clitoris, try: The Pretzel a.k.a. The Camel Ride

The Pretzel

How it works: Kneel and straddle her left leg while she’s lying on her left side. From here, she should bend her right leg around the right side of your waist—allowing full access to her vagina. This position is an upgrade from standard missionary because this sets you up for deeper penetration and allows you to slow your roll.  “Most women find sex much more pleasurable when it’s not just constant thrusting,” says Landa. So spend some time exploring her body.  This setup gives you complete access to her clitoris for manual stimulation. But don’t feel limited to solely hands on fun. Try withdrawing your penis and, while holding the shaft with your left hand, rub the head against her clitoris. Start out soft and slow, then as you increase speed and pressure, reinsert once you’ve brought her to the brink of an orgasm.

For targeting her G-Spot, try: The Standing Dragon a.k.a. Crouching Tiger, Hidden Serpent
How it works: Position her on the edge of the bed, posing on all fours. As you stand behind her, have her arch her back so it lifts her butt upward. With your legs outside of hers, use your thighs to squeeze her knees together, which tightens her vagina around your penis. This position is ideal for G-spot stimulation and also gives you a great view of her curves.
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For intensifying vaginal pleasure, you should try: The Flatiron a.k.a. Downward Dog
How it works: Have her lie face down on the bed with her knees slightly bent and hips slightly raised. For comfort, and to increase the angle of her hips, you can suggest placing a pillow under her lower abs. From here, enter her from behind and keep your weight off of her by propping yourself up with your arms. This position creates a snug fit—which intensifies her pleasure by making you feel larger to her. (A killer tip for you: You’ll last longer in this position if you switch to shallower thrusts and deeper breaths.)
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The Pole Position

For optimal dual pleasure, you should try: The Pole Position a.k.a. Thighmaster
How it works: Lie on your back and bend one of your legs, keeping the other outstretched. Have her straddle the raised leg with a thigh on either side and then lower herself onto your member so that her back is facing you. From here, she should hold your knee and use it for support as she rocks up and down. “This position is great, because it’s a lot like the reverse cowgirl, but with a twist,” says Landa. Raising your knee allows her to rub against your thigh—which produces optimal clitoral stimulation, says Landa.

3 Ways to Last Longer In Bed

Could Viagra help you last longer in bed? The latest research published in the Journal of Sexual Medication seems to think so.
Researchers reviewed 14 studies that monitored the effects phosphodiesterase type 5 inhibitors—drugs for erectile dysfunction like Viagra and Levitra—had on men who experience premature ejaculation (PE). Eleven of the studies showed medication helped extend the length of the time they could go before reaching orgasm.

To perform during your big debut, practice makes perfect.

So does this mean that science has found the magic pill for helping you go all night? Not exactly.
The researchers stress that although this correlation was found, it’s hard to determine whether or not the ED medication was actually responsible for the delay in orgasm since a majority of the studies did not compare the results against a placebo.
If you’re looking to buy some time before reaching climax, rather than hitting up your doctor for meds, check out the following tips. (And we’ve got even more keys for Lasting Longer in Bed)
Stop-Start Technique
You need to get used to building your arousal to where you’re almost at that point of no return, says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., sex researcher at Indiana University and author of Great in Bed. Start stimulation, but as soon as you feel you’re getting too aroused, simply pause for a brief moment—Herbenick recommends 5 to 10 seconds—and let your arousal subside. After repeating this technique a few times, feel free to release.

Squeeze Technique
As soon as you feel you’re getting close, stop stimulation and squeeze right below the head of your penis, says Herbenick. It’s best to focus the pressure on the urethra—the tube running along the underside of the penis—because this will temporarily represses your ejaculatory response. Once your arousal has died down, repeat a few more times before reaching climax, says Herbenick.
Rely On Rubbers Another useful technique for pushing back your ejaculatory response is to wear a desensitizing condom, says Herbenick. These products contain the desensitizing lubricant benzocaine, so it will buy you a few more minutes in the sack. But something to keep in mind: Make sure you’re not putting the condom on inside out, otherwise the Benzocaine will end up inside her vagina, says Herbenick. (And if you’re still searching for other alternatives to battle this buzz kill